FAQs

Q: We’ve never talked to anyone. We’re used to handling things on our own. Aren’t couples who go to therapy in trouble?

A: Not necessarily. It takes courage for couples to ask for help, and most wait a long time before doing so. In my experience, most couples wish they had come in sooner! In our work together, I’ll help you explore and identify your strengths and challenges and how to address them.

Q: What’s the difference between talking to you and to our friends and family?

A: The difference is between someone who can do something, and someone who has the training and experience to do that same thing professionally. A mental health professional can help you approach your situation in a new way– teach you new skills, gain different perspectives, listen to you without judgment or expectations, and help you listen to yourself. Furthermore, counseling is completely confidential. You won’t have to worry about others “knowing my business.” Lastly, if your situation provokes a great deal of negative emotion, and you’ve been confiding in a friend or family member, there is the risk that once you are feeling better you could start avoiding that person so you aren’t reminded of this difficult time in your life.

Q: How does it work? What do we have to do in sessions?

A: Each couple’s therapy journey starts with a thorough assessment. You will be asked to fill out an online questionnaire through the Gottman Institute called the Gottman Relationship Checkup. I will interview you as a couple and individually to discuss your history and what you would like to gain from therapy. From there, because every couple has different issues and goals for counseling, it will be different depending on the couple. I tailor my approach to your needs. Some typical sessions might include practicing good communication, working on compromise on areas where you are stuck, repairing past issues, and tools and tips for what to work on at home in between sessions.

Q: How long will it take?

A: Unfortunately, this is not possible to say in a general FAQs page. Everyone’s circumstances are unique to them and the length of time counseling can take to allow you to accomplish your goals depends on your desire for personal development, your commitment, and the factors that are driving you to seek counseling in the first place.

Q: We want to get the most out of therapy. What can we do to help?

A: I am so glad you are dedicated to getting the most out of your sessions. Your active participation and dedication will be crucial to your success.

Q: Do you take insurance?

A: I do not accept insurance.